I am actively back on the market and looking to date in a way that could possibly lead to a meaningful relationship. During the several weeks leading up to Vickie's departure from the practice, I started feeling the need to go seek out the company and comfort of a good woman and the ability to reciprocate that same sense of mutual enjoyment, autonomy and support. I was careful, though, to make sure that what I was wanting was not just a preemptive rebound to cushion my feelings against the pain of Vickie's departure. Well, I faced the departure and handled it with strength, with emotion, and with my dignity intact. I miss Vickie and I want to find someone to date in a meaningful way, but not because I miss Vickie. I even discussed this with my waitress friends - I call them my "diner divas" - at the Double T in Bel Air. Erica reassured me that she also thought I was ready and in a good position to go looking for a relationship/dating scenario. Now, the challenge I face is finding someone my age to date.
It seems like all the women I know who are my age are working on either their third child or their first divorce. Erica and all her friends are in their late 20s and just a bit out of my desired age range of 35-45 years old; and, I'm quite sure I'm out of their desired age range, too. Even with a bit of allowance on either end of that range, they still seem a bit young, and our pop culture references are just a bit too different. They are wonderful, beautiful young women, though.
Meeting quality, available, single women my age is tough. At 40 years old, women are perched precariously between the roles of MILF and Cougar, but, generally speaking, are unable to fully claim one or the other. I had one 37-year-old woman respond to me via an internet singles platform. She nearly immediately (as in less than one half hour into our first conversation) went into questioning why I do not have or desire to have children of my own. She told me that her daughter was the result of a withdrawal from the sperm bank, that she wanted to have more children by way of the same donor's specimen, and that she plans to adopt special needs children out of foster care. Whoa, hon! Can't we just start with coffee and work our way up to the sperm bank and adoption agency? Can you spell T.M.I.?! WOW! Next.
So, I am looking for ideas that are not internet based to meet quality, subtle women around my age for the purposes of strategic, targeted dating. Any advice?
"Love for Sale", Cyrille Aimee.
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