After work last night I had the blessing and good fortune to keep the company of two of my favorite people, again - Erica and Jen. These gals are awesome! We ended up sittin' around shooting the breeze 'til about 3:30 this morning. Jen is a bombastic example of unbridled self-confidence; Erica is the flip-side of that coin. Erica told me that Jen is a good matchmaker, so I let Jen know that my intentionality is to try to get into a meaningful, romantic partnership. Then, Jen asked the magic question. What am I looking for? I was a bit stymied on the spot, but as I drove home I thought about it.
I want a woman who is kind and intelligent. Sense of humor is an absolute must, and mine, at times, can be rather politically incorrect. Jen and Erica are actually good examples of the kind of women I like, but I can't help but think that a 28 year old woman would be a bit short-changed by the prospect of being in a relationship with a 40 year old guy. The flip-side of this issue is I don't like women who are old beyond their years. I know, 'cause a dated a woman like that for a year one night. And, I'm not ready to help attend to the grand-kids. Women with children of their own are fine. I like a woman with a sense of assertiveness; I don't like women who subvert their interests in favor of whatever the guy wants to do. The way I feel is, hey, you have a brain, use it! Heck, you might even teach me something! I am attracted to a bigger girl; Kristen Bloom is amazing looking, but her chisel doesn't rock my world as much as some nice, soft curves make it sizzle (Jen, DO NOT put this on my head stone! I know you've got connections with Bethany...behave yourself.). I want to be with a woman who is a Christian. I don't need constant or regular religiosity. I just want to be able to celebrate Christmas and Easter without being made to feel like a fool or like some 17th century colonizing European power broker. I like women who like to drive sometimes, even if its my car and gas. I'm no longer much of a drinker. So, it's not to have a permanent designated driver; it's just that I'm occasionally lazy. While I enjoy physical intimacy as well as anyone, I don't think I could fully satisfy a woman whose sexual appetite ran anywhere from voracious to insatiable; conversely, I do no want a prude, as a prude could not satisfy my own sexual appetite. I would like to find a woman who is independent-minded. I want a woman who wants to do things with me, and also wants to do some things without me, especially while my schedule prevents us from doing things together, but not just then. I want a woman who can support my attentiveness to my aging parents, even if she doesn't fully understand it. Bonus points for non-blondes - again, I cannot emphasize enough my respect for intelligence. Plus, I get tired of the white-out on my computer monitor ;-) Music is a big part of what gets me by the rough spots. I am not talented that way, so, if she were to be - hey, more bonus points! What else? I like Poe, Hemingway and Steinbeck...and the New York Yankees. She wouldn't have to like any of these, just as long as she doesn't mind me liking what I like.
"Desire", U2.
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